Relationships (Manoj Karagudri): Persistence in Marriage

Marriage is all about persistence, to stick with the same partner, with peaceful commitment and agreeable compromise. Marriage is all about falling in love, with the same person, for several times. For your entire life. But with respect and humbleness.

Life long married couples fall in Love with the same person for several times. The same marriage contains several "new marriages" during their relationship. Their bodies and minds changed, and they are still together. They made several persistent positive efforts to understand each other for a longer time. It is good to be silent when angry, and to speak when in happiness. They always help each other to improve by convincing with gentleness and compassion. If they wanted to keep on as they were, when they were married, they would have not come so far.

The key to life long happy marriage is: to be gentle and humble to each other. To respect and care with persistence for patience and optimism. Everything will resolve into peace. Compassion with gentle caring respect creates happy friendship between couples.

Married person is not happy when they are controlled, possessed and dictated like a slave by the other partner. Thus they need to give space and time for each other to heal and rectify. They need to be good friends.

Love changes, and nobody understands that. The idea that Love Leads to Happiness is a modern invention. Dating from the late 17th century onwards, people have learned to believe that love should last for ever and that marriage is the best way to exercise love. In the past there was not so much optimism about the longevity of passion.
“Romeo and Juliet isn’t a happy story, it’s a tragedy. In the last few decades, expectation has grown a lot regarding marriage being the path towards personal accomplishment. Disappointment and dissatisfaction have also grown at the same time.”
People have been married to the same person for more than 30 years, their entire life period, but metaphorically speaking, the same marriage contains several "new marriages" during their relationship.

http://relationships-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2014/03/persistence.html

Relationship & Partnership:
http://realizations-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2012/08/relationships-in-life-partnerships-in.html

Nice Song: Describing the Qualities of a Humble Indian Gentleman (Vaishnava)

http://hindi-hope-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.in/2013/01/vaishnava.html

Here is an article by Swami that I came across,
Swami's First Sexual Experience After 30 Years of natural Celibacy.
http://www.jaisiyaram.com/blog/my-life/8280-my-first-sexual-experience-after-30-years-of-natural-celibacy-19-jun-11.html

While I was reading this article I thought of commenting on the article. My intentions were not to hurt anyone but only to express my view and opinion. I also want to express that I have not had sex until now, and will only have with my married life-partner in future. It was nice to hear about his experience. He also say that he is not sad to lose his virginity, and he is also happy for not being celibate any more. He has very much expressed his views and real truth, that he has already experienced in his life. It is always good to express the truth. Well, mistakes do happen in life, but we can rectify these mistakes only when we accept them. But one question is pondering. Should we teach the same things to our next generation? to our children. Should we teach them to lose their celibacy and to lose their virginity? Just imagine when someone accepts certain principals in life, which will eventually carve his character. Will a person who has lost his celibacy and virginity, expect the same from their life-partner? Will this person ever have a relationship with a life-partner who is a celibate. Is it fair to lose celibacy just to accomplish sexual desires. Should we humans control our desires to attain our humble and noble objectives of life. Being tolerant is good, but is it good to lose ones identity and principals. Can we be good parents and teachers if we lose our principals.

Here is a nice song, I want to dedicate to this thought process. This song signifies the qualities of an Indian Vaishnava. As it says: A Vaishnav sees everything equally, rejects greed and avarice, Considers some one else's wife/daughter as his mother.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJb6RTGZd_4

Here is the English meaning of this song: A Vaishnav, Tolerates and praises the the entire world, Does not say bad things about anyone, Keeps his/her words, actions and thoughts pure. A Vaishnav sees everything equally, rejects greed and avarice, Considers some one else's wife/daughter as his mother. The tongue may get tired, but will never speak lies. Does not even touch someone else's property. Who has no greed and deceit, Who has renounced lust of all types and anger.