Happily Married Good Friends.

Imagine the moment in life when there are two good friends, who are sharing their thoughts in their minds. The time spent together is a joy for them, because they experience great happiness and joy to share their thoughts to each other.

Sometimes good friendship lasts for a longer time periods or even for a shorter period. But the time spent with all the good friends are happy moments. This is rather called as philosophical happiness.

A relationship of marriage requires two important happiness,
1-Philosophical happiness and another 2-Erotical happiness. (Erotics or Sexual Happiness, or Lust)
Now imagine two good friends enjoying mutual erotics. And that married couple is much happier.

We must understand our life as simple as possible. And when it is simple and easy to understand we can enjoy and feel the happiness. We are all trying to live a happy life. And in simple terms, we are happy when we are with our good friend. A good friend who can understand, who is concerned, who cares with gentleness, who is humble, who is loyal and trust worthy, who respects others peace, and when we feel the healing, the energy of joy and good health, when we are with our good friend.

Good friend is the one who has similar thinking, and who has the similar principles to live a happy life. And when we meet someone like that, we feel a great joy and happiness. We say that is exactly what we were looking for. And we feel to live with a good friend for our entire life. It is like two bodies with a similar minds. May be two bodies look different in physical appearance, but the thinking of minds are similar. And two good friends feel great happiness when they are with each other. They enjoy others company. And I too would be happy with my good friend.

Marriage is a name given to a relationship between a man and a women who are good friends. I find great happiness when I move towards peace, when I am gentle and humble to my good friend.

We all as humans need someone in our life who can hold us tight and hug with love. We all need emotional healing when we hold a good friend tightly close to our breath. We all need a good friend with whom we can make love, being humans its our natural requirement. I too need a good friend to live my entire life.And we have to find out if we can be good friends.

For me life is meaningful and a great joy when I am with my good friend. I never had sex in my life till now. I think lust and sex is meaningful only with a good friend. And marriage is a ritual of promises and vows which will define a constructive meaning to enhance strength, courage, wisdom and happiness to live our peaceful healthy life. I find great satisfaction and happiness when I am in compassion with others.

I don't believe in doing anything and everything to create wealth. But I believe in creating wealth with humbleness to serve the purpose of mankind with peace. I would never like to hurt myself to create wealth. Even though wealth is necessary to sustain a healthy happy life. Creating wealth by hurting others without blessings makes no sense. I am searching for my good friend with whom I can live my entire life with.

I am a vegetarian, I do not eat meat, and I think all religions were invented by humans and none are perfect. And these religions were invented to guide humans live a peaceful healthy happy life. Thus my religion is compassion and peace to enhance mankind.

I heal myself with peaceful meditation with instrumental music. I love being with green and clean nature, with lots of sunshine, to breath fresh air. Thus I heal myself. And I do not smoke and drink.

Communication plays most important role in understanding and building good friendship. Thus clarification will enhance proper understanding, to enable a good friendship.

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Marriage. Scientific Reason.

Lust is one of the emotions existing in nature. Which is responsible for the existence of Life on planet earth. 

Without Lust none of the animals would have involved in reproduction. 

Lust can be defined as a form of happiness experienced while having intercourse. But Lust is a very strong emotion which must be controlled, to tame the wild. 

Marriage is a set of laws to experience physical Lust between woman and man. 

Marriage creates good health which is possible with Loyalty and Gentleness. Lust is good with gentleness and Loyalty.

Thinking is the very basic Human nature.
And perhaps this advanced intelligence of humans, makes them the most sophisticated creations of nature on planet earth. Certainly Human being has much better thinking capabilities,compared to any other animal.

Sometimes it hurts when we start asking questions to ourselves. When we ask questions to ourselves we can experience that we start getting solutions and answers from ourselves. The more we dig into the questions every-time we start getting better solutions each time. The more we dig in every-time the much better gets the solution, more refined and clearer each time.

Thus sitting in meditation and asking good questions to ourselves is a good habit. Perhaps this is what we call as meditation, to finding solutions within ourselves.

According to science human is an evolution from chimpanzees and monkeys.
They are our ancestors, and what's makes us superior to them? It is the refined and improved development of reformed brain with an superior thinking advanced mind. And certainly according to proof of science, the next human reformed future generation will be certainly having much better capacity of intelligence, with better sense to taste, to smell,to see, to touch, and obviously to think. So everything in nature of evolution is to create better species and surroundings. Thus giving birth to children is very important for evolution.

It can be observed in the nature of living creatures, that they live in pairs (male and female) and then largely in communities and societies, and then with much higher humanity and mankind itself. While living in pairs, male and female is observed to be the most intimate relation of animals and species. And they also do live in communities and societies to evolve into better future generations.

It is observed in nature, for example birds live as pairs with building their nests and keeping eggs in them to raise the new born. And they always prefer to have sex with the same partner all the time. And they quit the relationships when betrayed by the other. Because they can sense the smell of change within their partners. For example the swans are said to be the most emotional birds, because when one of the partner dies, the other too dies out of emotional feeling of longing and missing its partner.

Generally if you ask the truth to any human how they would feel, when their partner would have sex with any other person, the answer of the divine soul would always be no, they would not like their partner to have sex with any one else. They would get hurt emotionally, and would be painful.

Why would this happen, the very reason is because of the connection of soul or minds or genetics with one another when they have sex, when their genetics gets connected with their blood. According to science, sex is the deepest connection animals ever make to get connected with one another.Thus it becomes a compulsion not to break the pair of male and female, which could lead to emotional disasters if broken.

Thus this is very critical for evolution of advanced intelligence to create better future generations.
Thus we can see that broken families face too many problems.
Thus marriage was a namely relationship constitution that was innovated by societies to create happy families, to create better societies consisting of happy families.

Everything gets meaningful with a proper reasoning of science with a proof of explanation. For all those who ever ask questions why they should marry ? above is the explanation.

By now, we must be primarily convinced that, we must make efforts to have a life-time relationship of marriage to live a happy life. And sometimes relationships do break and that's secondary due to several reasons we will discuss further.

Happy marriage requires respect between the partners, with loyalty, caring, gentleness and humbleness to generate peace. This peace within several families in a society is very critical for evolution, if not they end up making war of destruction, without any evolution.

The moment we get addictions to alcohol, tobacco and drugs, we start losing our sense of thinking, and certainly start having sex with unconscious minds, we start making lots of mistakes unconsciously due to addictions of intoxication, eventually doing crazy destructive things, destroying everything around us.
Thus consciousness is very important. Which is achieved by meditation.
Having sex within safe boundaries is also very important. Which is achieved by marriage.

Now marriage is all about promises and vows. The definition to marriage was to form a set of rules and regulations to the soul-mates or life-partners, with an intention to create or to form a relationship of sex for a life time. Thus in other words sex without marriage makes no sense or it is dangerous in other terms for the evolution of humanity and mankind.

Now lets look at the psychological behaviour of married human minds.
A human being experiences overall three different types of happiness in his entire life-time.
(1) Philosophical happiness.
(2) Erotics or sexual happiness.
(3) Agape happiness due to wonder in surprise.

Lets look at the phase of age limits for these above happiness.
1-The philosophical happiness is when people share similar thinking and enjoy peace while living with the same principles. This type of happiness can be experienced in all phases of age groups, and between several persons and societies together.
It is important to note that everything gets meaningful while at peace, respect, loyalty and compassion.

2-The happiness of erotics is when married couples have sex along with love and compassion. And sex without compassion would make no sense either. This is for matured phase of middle age groups. Not for minors. Nor for old aged.

3-The happiness of agape is very dominant in children and sometimes in adults too, but comparatively it gets lesser with the increase of age. This is because with the increase of experience in life, people tend to lose interest in surprises after experiencing the same things several times.

Thus erotics is the most important aspect leading to marriage.
Married couple must enjoy philosophical happiness to lead a happy life.
For a good happy marriage two things must match:
Philosophy and Erotics.
And very important is, everything must evolve towards:
peace, loyalty, respect, gentleness and compassion.

Thus it is important for humans to marry :)
So go ahead and find your happiness right now :D
Because this is the science of Life :D

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Divine Love

Love is a sacred and an divine blessing to add strength, courage and wisdom
to achieve our noble purpose of life.

Love becomes destructive when possessed with anger of compulsion.

Love is useless while hidden. Painful when suppressed.

Love is joy when accepted. When transparent.
Love grows more when appreciated by many people.
Love between two, grows strong when accepted by other loved ones.

Love is all about giving freedom.
But freedom is meaningful only while achieving noble objective.
And freedom is lost when misused.

Love must be accepted without any fear, with gratitude and respect.
Love is not a sin, but a blessing.
Rejection of truth is sin. Acceptance is divine.

Love accepted with pride and hope, leads to joy and happiness.

Love becomes a curse if rejected with anger, leads to sadness.

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Three Types of Happiness

A human-being in broader classification experiences mainly three different kinds of happiness in his life time:
(1) Agape (2) Eros (3) Philos.

The first one (agape) is for the children while at their childhood. This is experienced when we come across something amazing or interesting. In a state of wonder or amazement, as with the mouth wide open.

The second one (eros) is when they enter teenage and while at maturity. This is when we are aroused towards another opposite partner with fascination or infatuation.

The third one (philos) is intellectual of logical reasoning applicable at all ages, and especially at old age.
Thus it can be said that we experience the above defined happiness in our entire life. On further analyses it is quite obvious that, these happiness are the main ingredients of establishing relationships in our lives. As said above the third one PHILOS is experienced through the entire life. Thus this kind of happiness is a must to fulfill any kind of life long relationship, without which a person can never lead a satisfied happy life. Along with this PHILOS, depending upon our age factor, we also need AGAPE and EROS which lead to greater satisfied happy life. It is also noted that the AGAPE and EROS are quite temporary happiness, limited to certain time period depending upon the situations. Thus stronger relations, for example life-partners, spouses, marriages, deep-friendships, etc very much need PHILOS, without which a stronger relationship might not be possible. Along with this AGAPE and EROS are short lived. Thus constructive communication to express philosophical views is the most necessary aspect to establish any stronger relationships.

Philosophical relationships are quite often possible, very few agape relations may be encountered, and very rare, seldom are spouse or erotics relations encountered. As the relation to erotics is at a deeper level, which consists of philosophical and agape together, leading to life-partner, for entire life. Without proper coordination of philosophical, agape, proper understanding and respect, a erotics would merely be a infatuation without any strong stable relationship. Thus a life-partner relationship constitutes of many different, various emotions leading to happiness in life.

The beauty which can be seen with eyes is physical, and that which can be understood is mental. We can see the physical beauty but the philosophical one which is mental can only be experienced. It is quite true that, physical beauty can be created by humans using intelligence, but intelligence cannot be created using physical beauty. When we feel something is beautiful, we feel the happiness. For example when we look at beautiful flowers or butterflies, or various colors, or any other natures beauty. It is also true that this "Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder", meaning something which may seem to be beautiful to my eyes might not necessarily seem to be beautiful to another person. It is also true that relationships happen in real life, in many different forms. True love comes to us sometimes as a sister or a brother. As a father or a mother, as a friend or a companion. In other words every relation ship has a meaning which is philosophical (analyzed by human brains). Thus we need to recognize these different relationships, so that we can establish them in real life.

It’s interesting to note that goodness grows when it’s distributed. If the good is not shared then how will the goodness spread? Belief in good exists only when we see good things happening around us. When there is pain, so much of pain that no one is ready to share it, then we speak to someone within ourselves to share the pain. We give a name to him as “God”. Then we say that God was the one who shared our pain and relieved us of sorrow. Here God was created when there was a genuine requirement, or in other words we say “God himself will come to share our sorrows when there is no one to help”. On analysis we see that there was someone within us whom we called as God. On further analysis we see that it was the subconscious mind that really helped us. To put it in simple terms we consciously spoke to subconscious to relieve the pain and called it as God. In other words God was created when the requirement was genuine or when our conscious mind thought that there was no other way to let go of the pain. Lets analyze this further.

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There is no point in forcing someone to accept something, which they don’t like, as if it’s forcibly intruded then there are chances of breaking the relationship. In other words we are forcibly creating something when there is no genuine requirement for it to exist. When someone accepts something heartily, with subconscious mind, only then there is real happiness and satisfaction, as the requirement is genuine the realization is felt within oneself. That is when we listen within and someone within us accepts it. Two persons who have experienced the similar circumstances and situations can understand each other much better with greater empathy. When two persons can clearly visualize and understand each others situations and after analyzing their behaviors to different circumstances. 

It can be seen that strong bonds and happy relationships are possible naturally without any force being applied. It’s not fair and better to force them to happen. Its natural and simple, it was created only because there was a genuine requirement. We have to accept it naturally only because it is the truth. In other words “it cannot be created when there is no genuine requirement nor its creation can be stopped when there is a genuine requirement”. Things happen only because there is a genuine requirement. Either its good or bad, it all depends on how we look at them. If we do not believe in something good then it will not happen as there is no genuine requirement, as belief exists only when there is real requirement. It can be seen that when our subconscious mind forces us to believe something which our conscious mind does not want to accept, then what happens is that when we are asleep (or when our conscious mind is inactive) our subconscious tries to link our conscious (or in other words, we see dreams) which is created by subconscious mind. It’s better and healthy practice for the conscious mind to realize and listen to the subconscious mind. Its true to say that “no matter we accept it or not still we get dreams”. It’s not a very complex concept at all, as its natural and very simple as we experience this right from our childhood. It all depends on how we look at things around us and the way we analyze them. When our subconscious mind likes someone then our conscious mind listens to it and sends a proposal for the relationship. If we analyze this we see that we have no rights or hold on weather the relationship is created or broken or materialized. In other words relationship will be created if at all there is a genuine requirement.

Lets look at this Example: Two different people with two different subconscious minds which are guiding their individual conscious minds which are in turn sending and accepting the proposals for relationships. It’s quite simple and natural. We are human beings and we all have brains to think, why at all we think? Because there is a genuine requirement for particular necessity in life. It’s very simple that I’m writing this as my subconscious mind is guiding my conscious mind to express it to everyone. Now, either people accept it or reject it depending on their decision of subconscious minds and conscious minds. Likewise we can see that some relationships materialize only when everyone accepts it, as they cannot be forced upon to happen, nor they can be broken. All we can do is be calm, gentle, humble and stable to accept the truth by putting our good efforts. We have to keep walking our path of life towards happiness and satisfaction.

Sometimes it so happens that two persons accepts the relationships, but there are certain relationships which are to be accepted by the society to materialize, to give it a name and a meaning. On further analysis, this society is consumed of different individuals or people with different views and subconscious minds. We see that some of the relationships get their recognition only when accepted by the society, for example,  when accepted by our loved ones, parents, friends, relatives etc. Sometimes it will take time for the society to realize and accept the relationships. When we are walking our path of life, with lots of love, faith, prayers, blessings and goodwill then relationships happen depending on the necessity and requirement, we give them a name or we call them as “Luck” and “Destiny”. It’s quite simple. Above all this there is something, which controls everything, which we call as “super conscious” or the “soul of the universe” which is the “supreme power” which controls whole of the universe. When we pray this supreme soul to show us the right path of life to walk, then no doubt it will show us, but we sometimes feel that its crazy, where as its quite natural for the supreme soul. It’s the view how we look at certain things in life. In the view of the supreme soul its quite natural, as its keeping everything intact with love and affection, with healing and creativity and not destructive. It’s relating everything with goodness. It’s constantly converting bad to good. We should not forget that “God helps them who helps themselves”, meaning we have to put our good efforts and pray for good things to happen.

Why people usually don’t speak up. They think by speaking they may be caught, exposed, they may reveal their mistakes. They do not speak, as they are not sure of saying the right thing. They are afraid that the other person may hurt them and create problems. Some of them don’t speak because they don’t like the other person’s personality and attitude, they are afraid of losing their own individuality which they think is different than the other person. It’s basically the annoyance and irritation which they try to avoid. They tend to keep away from someone who tends to hurt them by passing comments and making fun of the other person who has a mild personality. Thus someone who is very calm, gentle and humble usually doesn’t like people who are fickle minded, crazy and unstable, who think they have a false confidence of winning personality. They think that they have to win no mater what. They don’t realize the good purpose of life. It’s the level of comfort one experiences with the other.

We are all the same Human Beings. At the end of the day we all do the same things. We all eat the same bread, we all expect the same sound sleep, and we all expect the same justice, satisfaction and happiness. In other words some basic necessities remain the same as humans.

We all have desires, it is natural. Should we control our desires? Is the question. This is where each one of us has different answers. We are all different personalities with different minds, brains, intelligence, beliefs and attitudes. Thus we believe in not discriminating others, not to hurt their feelings with criticism and hatred. At the same time we must show them the right path of life with brotherhood, love and compassion. We must bring this change with Constructive communication with gentleness.

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Lust without Love

Lust without Love has no meaning:

Never Hide Your Emotions.

If You want to Imagine LUST with Someone,
Then be READY to Accept Them in REALITY.

Do Not Imagine Lust Until Unless You are Ready to Accept it in Reality.

Achieve Your Humble Desires with Peace, Compassion & Gentleness. Help Ever & Hurt Never. Never Manipulate and Play with Emotions. Be Truthful to Yourself. Never treat people as a tissue paper, to dispose after use.

It is WRONG to imagine Lust with Someone to Achieve Emotional Satisfaction Mentally, Without establishing Relationship in Reality.

Lust (Desire for Sex) is an Extreme Strong Human Emotion.

That is why Marriage is Termed as: "Two Bodies into Single Soul".

It is because when we imagine Lust with Someone, we deeply get connected.

Human Connection of Lust is very intense.

Every time one partner imagines Lust with the other,

The other can sense and feel the emotion even at distances apart.

Once the partners get tuned to the emotional vibrations,

They start sensing and feeling each others emotions.

When one is Happy the other can experience the joy.

When one is sad the other can feel the frustrations.

That is how close people get connected in Lust.

That is the reason Marriage is termed as "2 Bodies with 1 Soul".

Thus never ever imagine Lust when you are away from your partner.

Because the other might get intense feelings of sex.

Which might destabilize their mind and ruin their attitude.

They might not be able to perform their work duties properly.

As they are distracted mentally.

Please maintain an balanced stable emotion of happiness.

If you want to have sex then please directly say it to your partner.

Having sex is much better than simply imagining the Lust.

Please try to understand, it might really hurt your partner.

Lust when indulged brings inertia (state of rest without motion) which is constructive, and when suppressed brings anger, destructive. Lust when suppressed, grips the mind and tires the body, and dulls the intellect. Lust is one of the main botheration that many face.
Lust is nothing but primordial (initiating) un-harnessed energy. The same when harnessed manifests as enthusiasm, sparkle, sharpness of intellect and love.
The factors which can sublimate (change from one form to another) or transform lust into love are: caring, empathy, gratitude, respect, gentleness.

Many of the times, it happens, while proposing to a immature person, for a relationship, for a life-partner, or for a marriage.
When someone says "I love you" and "I want to marry you".
One must not look at it with lust, as a point of view. People would react differently when proposed for a marriage.

A matured person, would react with politeness, empathy and gratitude. And would accept or reject the marriage proposal with a smile and mutual respect, with stability, without any greed or guilt of lust. This is because the person is not experiencing any lust or guilty-conscious within. They are clear of rejection with "NO".

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Difference in Lust and Love

Lust is Meaningful only after Marriage. Sometimes people misunderstand Love as Lust. Especially the teenagers, while at Schools and Colleges. Sometimes even Grown ups can get confused. Thus real maturity is when a person is controlled with Lust, while at Love. Thus Love appears in many different forms, with vast meanings and relationships. But the Lust along with Love is definitely Nourishing, Healthy, and Enjoyable while at Love. Thus Lust without Love is not meaningful. Thus Lust without Love might lead to Pain and Suffering. Similarly, when we Love someone, we must be aware not to include Lust without Marriage. Even just imagining Lust without marriage might lead to various physiological imbalance. For unmarried Lovers, Even while enjoying Lust with Love, It might lead to frustrations. It might create future problems and create insecurity, with a fear of uncertainty. Because it would never be possible to predict the future. Thus Lust is a word only for Married Partners, only within the Partners. Anything else will be a waste of time and energy, in the wrong direction.

It is quite obvious to experience fear when someone feels unsecured, due to desire for lust. When they are afraid of becoming miserable, because of their desire for lust, which can make them slaves of lust. Thus they are afraid of the lust as they experience guilty-conscious. A immature person would imagine lust, leading to shyness and feeling guilt. And would eventually react with anger and frustrations, in order to reject the feeling of lust which is unstable and irritating. Where as a matured person, would react differently.
If an immature person has a desire for lust, this would make them unstable, angry and arrogant. As they are looking at the lust without any compassion and love. They are unable to distinguish between lust and compassion.

On relationships. many times we see Beautiful, good looking, Gorgeous, People, dominating and controlling other individuals using their Power of Lust and Secs.

People also use Lust, using Lustful-imagination, to enjoy, to fulfill, to satisfy themselves to achieve their Lust.
They do it to satisfy and release their body and mind, to release themselves from the stronger grips of Lust, by imagining Lust mentally and emotionally with other persons, in their minds, in order to enjoy the feeling of Lust, to release and relax their body and mind.

People also use Lust to control other people, especially the good looking, beautiful, gorgeous people, who have the ability to seduce others misusing power of Lust. They mentally seduce other persons with Lust, just to dictate and make them their slaves. And when the innocent person approaches them with a desire of relationship, they start acting as if they are aloof and as if, not aware of the situation.

If the other person is not strong enough to understand the psychological Phenomenon, may be controlled by the stronger Lust. Thus the weaker person may destroy his career and future by wasting valuable time and energy thinking and imagining of useless thoughts, leading to useless actions. Instead of utilizing time to create quality proposals. India is critically suffering with such mental and emotional misconception.

Thus it would be very important and appropriate, to express the feeling of Lust, to establish Marriage, and to physically enjoy Lust and secs only after marriage.

Sometimes, the attractive people, who are able to control others with imaginary Lust, try to manipulate, by maintaining silence, in-order to confuse the other person. Thus they never express their universal Love in the form of Brother or Sister, either Mother or Father.

An intelligent person would be wise enough to understand this manipulation. Thus would control and reject such destructive psychological emotions. Lust is actually a vital part of Life, which has evolved the human beings, if not we would have never been born, it is nature and science. Thus Lust is meaningful, effective and appropriate only after marriage and only with the single life-partner. Apart from that Lust must be controlled and must not be mentally imagined which can hurt and create psychological imbalance.

Thus, meditation helps to overcome such negative emotions also, by concentration on breathing and healing body muscles with yoga, can be a good remedy to such negative emotions.

One must not be possessive while at Love.
Being Possessive means forcing and dictating someone to achieve any objective.
Love is freedom to achieve noble objective with peace and compassion.
And freedom is meaningful and respectable only while achieving an noble objective.
True Love can be satisfying and a real enjoyment only when performed with gratitude and willingness.
Love is in different forms. Creating different forms of relationships.
Love can be associated with various emotions, like affection, compassion, passion, lust, ambition, brotherhood, etc. Love can as well be used as a powerful weapon also.
Love is thus meaningful only while it has a constructive noble objective. If not it becomes manipulative, selfish, destructive and corrupt.
While love is to give, and as well to receive, with gratitude and respect.
Thus, Love is a sacred Divine blessing, to add strength, courage and wisdom, to accomplish our noble objective.

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True Love

Truth is nourished only by Love:

Only True-Love can withstand the Real-Truth, even if its bitter.
Rectification and Improvement is possible only when the real-truth is analyzed.
one must not hide the real-truth from the true-love.
one must not hesitate to ask the real-truth to find true-love.
True-love is only possible with real-truth.
Without truth and love a relationship is just a compromise, adjustment.
Which cannot be enjoyed with real happiness.
Why would someone tell a lie to their dear ones or to their beloved?
This is a question often asked by lust-lovers. Lovers cannot stand untruth; it causes relationships to fall apart. The answer lies in understanding the paradox of love and truth.
People tell lies just to save and maintain their love. Lies are a result of fear that the truth might damage the love between husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, parents and children.
In love you feel weak but truth brings strength. So why do people prefer love over truth, weakness over strength?
No one wants to sacrifice love. Thus people are ready to give up the truth for their love. Love takes the luster out of truth. Sometimes truth can make love bitter; while in love, even lies can appear sweet, like Krishna’s lies to his mother, Yashoda. His wrong doing was forgiven because of love. Love can be BLIND sometimes, it can be both either truth or false. Thus love with truth is constructive and valuable, where as love with false is destructive and unworthy.
The truth that does not nourish love makes no sense,
and the love that cannot withstand the truth is not true love.
When you are assured that your love is so strong that the truth can neither break it nor cause bitterness, then the truth prevails and love shines.
With truth there are judgements, but true love is beyond judgements. The true love makes you weak and yet it is the strongest strength.
From time to time keep a little distance from whoever is very close to you. Take a time off for your own space and go deep into your Self, dig deep. You are an ocean. There's so much wealth deep inside you, so much beauty.
Forgiveness:
It is said that "forgive your enemies", but learn from your mistakes. Do not follow the wrong ones. Follow the correct ones. Love yourself before loving your enemies. Do not love blindly, without proper analysis. If possible convert the bad to good. Do not sacrifice your good principals in order to respect and love the wrong ones. It the conversion is not possible, then it means that the good within yourself needs to be improved, it needs to get stronger, thus meditate on your good principles, to achieve constructive strength.

It is quite a natural phenomenon for humans to understand the other persons emotional feelings, merely just by concentration and visualization. This is an amazing functionality of human mind though, to predict the emotional behavior of other humans, thus enabling them to understand others psychological situations. It is quite a phenomenon for humans to make a phone call only in certain favorable times. The person would certainly call at times while he would experience positive thoughts, he would certainly assume that the person at other end would be in need of his advise. We all have heard this popular saying "I will look to you, only if you look to me", meaning that humans have the amazing phenomenon to understand the emotional thoughts of other humans by concentrating and thinking of the other person. Thus people very much know whose company they would enjoy, probably that's why people fall in love. That's why people visualize other persons presence in their emotions. Probably that's why they decide to live their entire life with their life-partners. People do this in order to achieve their, happiness. The happiness achieved by company of like minded companions. In-order to enjoy their desire to live with individuals having similar objectives of life. Thus a person is able to remember the other, only when the other person is also remembering. Someone would love the other, only when the other would also love back. Thus it is not one sided. It is possible only when both are equally involved. Thus it is an mutual relationship. Thus it is quite true that one can sense the other persons calling in their emotions only when the other person would express an emotional remembering desire.

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I Never Had Sex

S E X, only with Married Life-Partner:

Belief in Transparent Relationship of Truth: I admit that I never had sex in my life. We live in a diverse world. Even though we are all the same human beings but still we all have different principles in life. That is what is Unity in Diversity. Even though we have few common principles like, honesty, integrity, compassion and brotherhood.

Even though I have a belief in principle of having sex only with a married life-partner. As sex to me is much cultural and traditional concept. I also believe that I must have only one wife, and I must not have multiple sex partners. And sex must be had only when there is Love between the married partners. Sex without Love has no meaning.

At the same time I do not criticize others having different principles. When I do not criticize others, I do suggest that others must not criticize me either. There must be mutual respect for each other human beings.
By following this principle, I also do not think that I am much superior than others. Nor I think others are superior to me either. We all have equal rights and freedom to live in the same society, without any criticism and discrimination, with brotherhood and respect for each other.

We are all equal and united together with constructive compassion. I personally think we must be intelligent before taking decisions and actions in real life. I believe life partner is a soul mate, with a physical relationship for a life time.

I think human mind is wild and crazy, has no boundaries, it is not tamed, and it can thus think and dream with infinite limitations. Thus we should stick to principals in order to have a healthy and controlled mind, body and soul. That is what we call as meditation, in other words cleansing and controlling our ideas and channelizing our thoughts in the right direction, to achieve our humble objective, with optimism, brotherhood, love and compassion. To walk on the right path of life. In other words, implementing meditation in our everyday life, also called as KARMA. What we sow is what we reap. It is very important to be a role model, so that others can follow on these foot prints.

Every person has a different and varied personal, social, economical and family situations, circumstances, requirements and necessities. Especially in under-developed countries, women are not self sufficient or independent. Even educated women believe that their only responsibility is to cook food and nurture children. They look for a easy going life without any physical strains and responsibilities. They do not believe in taking a job to contribute in financial stability. I do not criticize them, may be its correct for them, but not for me. They have all the rights to live their life accordingly, I too have my own rights to live my way of life. It is quite important to have a independent life-partner. Life-partner who believes in earning her own livelihood. One who believes in creating her own financial stability, along with respect and dignity, with a set of like minded principals. Believe in equal responsibility, contributing and sharing equally. It is very important to live with a like minded person to attain a satisfied and happy life.

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Relationship & Partnership:
http://realizations-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2012/08/relationships-in-life-partnerships-in.html

Persistence in Marriage

Marriage is all about persistence, to stick with the same partner, with peaceful commitment and agreeable compromise. Marriage is all about falling in love, with the same person, for several times. For your entire life. But with respect and humbleness.

Life long married couples fall in Love with the same person for several times. The same marriage contains several "new marriages" during their relationship. Their bodies and minds changed, and they are still together. They made several persistent positive efforts to understand each other for a longer time. It is good to be silent when angry, and to speak when in happiness. They always help each other to improve by convincing with gentleness and compassion. If they wanted to keep on as they were, when they were married, they would have not come so far.

The key to life long happy marriage is: to be gentle and humble to each other. To respect and care with persistence for patience and optimism. Everything will resolve into peace. Compassion with gentle caring respect creates happy friendship between couples.

Married person is not happy when they are controlled, possessed and dictated like a slave by the other partner. Thus they need to give space and time for each other to heal and rectify. They need to be good friends.

Love changes, and nobody understands that. The idea that Love Leads to Happiness is a modern invention. Dating from the late 17th century onwards, people have learned to believe that love should last for ever and that marriage is the best way to exercise love. In the past there was not so much optimism about the longevity of passion.
“Romeo and Juliet isn’t a happy story, it’s a tragedy. In the last few decades, expectation has grown a lot regarding marriage being the path towards personal accomplishment. Disappointment and dissatisfaction have also grown at the same time.”
People have been married to the same person for more than 30 years, their entire life period, but metaphorically speaking, the same marriage contains several "new marriages" during their relationship.

http://relationships-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2014/03/persistence.html

Relationship & Partnership:
http://realizations-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2012/08/relationships-in-life-partnerships-in.html

Nice Song: Describing the Qualities of a Humble Indian Gentleman (Vaishnava)

http://hindi-hope-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.in/2013/01/vaishnava.html



Here is an article by Swami that I came across,
Swami's First Sexual Experience After 30 Years of natural Celibacy.
http://www.jaisiyaram.com/blog/my-life/8280-my-first-sexual-experience-after-30-years-of-natural-celibacy-19-jun-11.html

While I was reading this article I thought of commenting on the article. My intentions were not to hurt anyone but only to express my view and opinion. I also want to express that I have not had sex until now, and will only have with my married life-partner in future. It was nice to hear about his experience. He also say that he is not sad to lose his virginity, and he is also happy for not being celibate any more. He has very much expressed his views and real truth, that he has already experienced in his life. It is always good to express the truth. Well, mistakes do happen in life, but we can rectify these mistakes only when we accept them. But one question is pondering. Should we teach the same things to our next generation? to our children. Should we teach them to lose their celibacy and to lose their virginity? Just imagine when someone accepts certain principals in life, which will eventually carve his character. Will a person who has lost his celibacy and virginity, expect the same from their life-partner? Will this person ever have a relationship with a life-partner who is a celibate. Is it fair to lose celibacy just to accomplish sexual desires. Should we humans control our desires to attain our humble and noble objectives of life. Being tolerant is good, but is it good to lose ones identity and principals. Can we be good parents and teachers if we lose our principals.

Here is a nice song, I want to dedicate to this thought process. This song signifies the qualities of an Indian Vaishnava. As it says: A Vaishnav sees everything equally, rejects greed and avarice, Considers some one else's wife/daughter as his mother.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJb6RTGZd_4

Here is the English meaning of this song: A Vaishnav, Tolerates and praises the the entire world, Does not say bad things about anyone, Keeps his/her words, actions and thoughts pure. A Vaishnav sees everything equally, rejects greed and avarice, Considers some one else's wife/daughter as his mother. The tongue may get tired, but will never speak lies. Does not even touch someone else's property. Who has no greed and deceit, Who has renounced lust of all types and anger.

Few Aspects of Relationships.
http://science-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2012/07/some-of-aspects-which-materialize.html

Steps In Relationships.
http://science-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2012/07/steps-involved-in-relationships.html

Relationship: Portrait of a Friend
http://friendship-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2012/08/portrait-of-friend.html

Song: Help Me at Troubles.
http://hindi-hope-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.in/2013/01/itna-shakti.html

Relationship of Love.
http://realizations-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2012/11/relationship-of-love.html

Relationship & Partnership in Life.
http://realizations-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2012/08/relationships-in-life-partnerships-in.html

Trying to Define Relationship.

http://realizations-manoj-kumar-kargudri.blogspot.com/2012/08/an-attempt-for-definition.html

* [Read: Relationships and Happiness!] *[God gave us everything.] *[Steps Involved In Relationships.] *[Life is full of Tests.]

*[Some of the aspects which materialize the relationships.]

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Winning Publications.

*Significance of Nava-ratna (Nava-Graha). *Amazing Constructive Vibrations. *The piercing of the ears (karnavedha) . *Nature Cure. *Steps to improve work place. *Steps Involved In Relationships. *Some of the aspects which materialize the relationships.

Respecting Others.

Everybody is a genius in his own ways.
Everyone has talents within, which gives them happiness and peace.
Few are good in mathematics, others in biology,
few of them like physics, and others like chemistry,
few are poets, and others are painters,
each one of us have talents within,
depending upon our moods and emotions,
creativity and wisdom are in several forms,
But if we tell a fish to climb a tree,
and if we judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree,
and if we criticise its inability to climb a tree,
the fish would think that it is incompetent,
and would live its entire life believing that,
it is stupid, useless and worthless.
Thus we must learn to appreciate the good talents.

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The Best Time to Speak.

When is the good time to speak?
We must speak, only when we are in good mood.
When we are happy and jolly in our minds.
We must always express, speak and write,
when we are peaceful.

It is better to be in silence,
when we are in a bad mood.
When we are angry and depressed,
because silence will heal our souls,
while we are disturbed.
After the silence heals our minds,
we can start doing from the top again.

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Differences are quite Common.

We are all different beings.
We all have different good talents inside us which can be used to
create and distribute peace around us.
There can be good and bad in every person.
But when we analyze whats good and bad in others,
and when we can appreciate the good talents in others,
and when we can understand how,
we can Learn from others differences,
to achieve our peace and happiness,
to Learn how to see positive talents in others differences,
to improve ourselves by learning from others.
Just Like an honey bee,
which extracts only nectar from flowers,
we must be wise enough,
to extract only what is good for us from others.
And anything that's bad must be converted into good with compassion and peace.

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