A human-being in broader classification experiences mainly three different kinds of happiness in his life time:
(1) Agape (2) Eros (3) Philos.
The first one (
agape) is for the children while at their childhood. This is experienced when we come across something amazing or interesting. In a state of wonder or amazement, as with the mouth wide open.
The second one (
eros) is when they enter teenage and while at maturity. This is when we are aroused towards another opposite partner with fascination or infatuation.
The third one (
philos) is intellectual of logical reasoning applicable at all ages, and especially at old age.
Thus it can be said that we experience the above defined happiness in our entire life. On further analyses it is quite obvious that, these happiness are the main ingredients of establishing relationships in our lives. As said above the third one
PHILOS is experienced through the entire life. Thus this kind of happiness is a must to fulfill any kind of life long relationship, without which a person can never lead a satisfied happy life. Along with this
PHILOS, depending upon our age factor, we also need
AGAPE and
EROS which lead to greater satisfied happy life. It is also noted that the
AGAPE and
EROS are quite temporary happiness, limited to certain time period depending upon the situations. Thus stronger relations, for example life-partners, spouses, marriages, deep-friendships, etc very much need
PHILOS, without which a stronger relationship might not be possible. Along with this
AGAPE and
EROS are short lived. Thus constructive communication to express philosophical views is the most necessary aspect to establish any stronger relationships.
Philosophical relationships are quite often possible, very few agape relations may be encountered, and very rare, seldom are spouse or erotics relations encountered. As the relation to erotics is at a deeper level, which consists of philosophical and agape together, leading to life-partner, for entire life. Without proper coordination of philosophical, agape, proper understanding and respect, a erotics would merely be a infatuation without any strong stable relationship. Thus a life-partner relationship constitutes of many different, various emotions leading to happiness in life.
The beauty which can be seen with eyes is physical, and that which can be understood is mental. We can see the physical beauty but the philosophical one which is mental can only be experienced. It is quite true that, physical beauty can be created by humans using intelligence, but intelligence cannot be created using physical beauty. When we feel something is beautiful, we feel the happiness. For example when we look at beautiful flowers or butterflies, or various colors, or any other natures beauty. It is also true that this
"Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder", meaning something which may seem to be beautiful to my eyes might not necessarily seem to be beautiful to another person. It is also true that relationships happen in real life, in many different forms. True love comes to us sometimes as a sister or a brother. As a father or a mother, as a friend or a companion. In other words every relation ship has a meaning which is philosophical (analyzed by human brains). Thus we need to recognize these different relationships, so that we can establish them in real life.
It’s interesting to note that
goodness grows when it’s
distributed. If the good is not shared then how will the goodness spread? Belief in good exists only when we see good things happening around us. When there is pain, so much of pain that no one is ready to share it, then we speak to someone within ourselves to share the pain. We give a name to him as “God”. Then we say that God was the one who shared our pain and relieved us of sorrow. Here God was created when there was a genuine requirement, or in other words we say “God himself will come to share our sorrows when there is no one to help”. On analysis we see that there was someone within us whom we called as God. On further analysis we see that it was the subconscious mind that really helped us. To put it in simple terms we consciously spoke to subconscious to relieve the pain and called it as God. In other words God was created when the requirement was genuine or when our conscious mind thought that there was no other way to let go of the pain. Lets analyze this further.
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There is no point in forcing someone to accept something, which they don’t like, as if it’s forcibly intruded then there are chances of breaking the relationship. In other words we are forcibly creating something when there is no genuine requirement for it to exist. When someone accepts something heartily, with subconscious mind, only then there is real happiness and satisfaction, as the requirement is genuine the realization is felt within oneself. That is when we listen within and someone within us accepts it. Two persons who have experienced the similar circumstances and situations can understand each other much better with greater empathy. When two persons can clearly visualize and understand each others situations and after analyzing their behaviors to different circumstances.
It can be seen that strong bonds and happy relationships are possible
naturally without any force being applied. It’s not fair and better to force them to happen. Its natural and simple, it was created only because there was a genuine requirement. We have to accept it naturally only because it is the truth. In other words “it cannot be created when there is no genuine requirement nor its creation can be stopped when there is a genuine requirement”. Things happen only because there is a genuine requirement. Either its good or bad, it all depends on how we look at them. If we do not believe in something good then it will not happen as there is no genuine requirement, as belief exists only when there is real requirement. It can be seen that when our subconscious mind forces us to believe something which our conscious mind does not want to accept, then what happens is that when we are asleep (or when our conscious mind is inactive) our subconscious tries to link our conscious (or in other words, we see dreams) which is created by subconscious mind. It’s better and healthy practice for the conscious mind to realize and listen to the subconscious mind. Its true to say that “no matter we accept it or not still we get dreams”. It’s not a very complex concept at all, as its natural and very simple as we experience this right from our childhood. It all depends on how we look at things around us and the way we analyze them. When our subconscious mind likes someone then our conscious mind listens to it and sends a proposal for the relationship. If we analyze this we see that we have no rights or hold on weather the relationship is created or broken or materialized. In other words relationship will be created if at all there is a genuine requirement.
Lets look at this Example: Two different people with
two different subconscious minds which are guiding their individual conscious minds which are in turn sending and accepting the proposals for relationships. It’s quite simple and natural. We are human beings and we all have brains to think, why at all we think? Because there is a genuine requirement for particular necessity in life. It’s very simple that I’m writing this as my subconscious mind is guiding my conscious mind to express it to everyone. Now, either people accept it or reject it depending on their decision of subconscious minds and conscious minds. Likewise we can see that some relationships materialize only when everyone accepts it, as they cannot be forced upon to happen, nor they can be broken. All we can do is be calm, gentle, humble and stable to accept the truth by putting our good efforts. We have to keep walking our path of life towards happiness and satisfaction.
Sometimes it so happens that two persons accepts the relationships, but there are certain relationships which are to be accepted by the society to materialize, to give it a name and a meaning. On further analysis, this society is consumed of different individuals or people with different views and subconscious minds. We see that some of the relationships get their recognition only when accepted by the society, for example, when accepted by our loved ones, parents, friends, relatives etc. Sometimes it will take time for the society to realize and accept the relationships. When we are walking our path of life, with lots of love, faith, prayers, blessings and goodwill then relationships happen depending on the necessity and requirement, we give them a name or we call them as “Luck” and “Destiny”. It’s quite simple. Above all this there is something, which controls everything, which we call as “super conscious” or the “soul of the universe” which is the “supreme power” which controls whole of the universe. When we pray this supreme soul to show us the right path of life to walk, then no doubt it will show us, but we sometimes feel that its crazy, where as its quite natural for the supreme soul. It’s the view how we look at certain things in life. In the view of the supreme soul its quite natural, as its keeping everything intact with love and affection, with healing and creativity and not destructive. It’s relating everything with goodness. It’s constantly converting bad to good. We should not forget that “God helps them who helps themselves”, meaning we have to put our good efforts and pray for good things to happen.
Why people usually
don’t speak up. They think by speaking they may be caught, exposed, they may reveal their mistakes. They do not speak, as they are not sure of saying the right thing. They are afraid that the other person may hurt them and create problems. Some of them don’t speak because they don’t like the other person’s personality and attitude, they are afraid of losing their own individuality which they think is different than the other person. It’s basically the annoyance and irritation which they try to avoid. They tend to keep away from someone who tends to hurt them by passing comments and making fun of the other person who has a mild personality. Thus someone who is very calm, gentle and humble usually doesn’t like people who are fickle minded, crazy and unstable, who think they have a false confidence of winning personality. They think that they have to win no mater what. They don’t realize the good purpose of life. It’s the level of comfort one experiences with the other.
We are all the same Human Beings. At the end of the day we all do the same things. We all eat the same bread, we all expect the same sound sleep, and we all expect the same justice, satisfaction and happiness. In other words some basic necessities remain the same as humans.
We all have desires, it is natural. Should we control our desires? Is the question. This is where each one of us has different answers. We are all different personalities with different minds, brains, intelligence, beliefs and attitudes. Thus we believe in not discriminating others, not to hurt their feelings with criticism and hatred. At the same time we must show them the right path of life with brotherhood, love and compassion. We must bring this change with Constructive communication with gentleness.
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